Questions You’re Too Shy to Ask Your Massage Therapist

hands with oil giving a back massage: text: questions you'tr too shy to ask your massage therapist Although there’s no such thing as a silly question, there are just some questions we are too shy to ask our massage therapist. So, we’ve taken the liberty of answering some frequent questions here.

Is This a Legitimate Massage Centre or Spa?

Massage parlors – the type that offers erotic massage – are not obviously seedy. Sometimes you need to ask a few well-chosen questions to ensure that your massage is all you expect it to be … and no more! Those questions are:

  1. Do you offer therapeutic massage?
  2. Is the massage therapist certified or licensed?
  3. Do you need me to complete a client health questionnaire?

Three yesses and you shouldn’t get any uncomfortable surprises.

Questions if You Will Have to Take Everything Off?

Not if you don’t want to, although many massage enthusiasts like to have their treatments naked. It’s completely up to you. There are treatments where you don’t need to be fully naked, like reflexology, Reiki, or Indian Head Massage.

If you’d prefer to keep your underwear on during a massage, that’s fine. Please don’t wear your favorite smalls, though, as they might get massage oil on them (although your therapist will be as careful as possible.) Tight-fitting underwear can get in the way if you’re having a lower back massage, but a thong or loose undies that can be moved around will be fine.

Even if you decide to go as nature intended for your massage, we’ll still only see the area we’re working on, and a towel will properly cover your modesty.


Should I Talk During a Massage?

It’s totally up to you! If all you want to do is close your eyes and drift away, go right ahead. Like sports or deep tissue/detox massage, some types of massage might require a little more feedback because when the therapist is getting deep into your muscle knots, they’ll need to ensure it’s not uncomfortable.

Don’t be afraid to tell us if:

  1. It hurts – anywhere
  2. You’re too hot or cold
  3. If you have any questions
  4. It would be best if you told us something health-related.

What If I Drool or Get an Erection?

Your therapist will consider it a compliment if you doze off during a massage, and if you’re lying face down, it’s not unusual to drool. Just ask for a tissue, and nobody will bat an eyelid.

Some men avoid the worry that they’ll get an erection during a massage – it happens. Men often get an erection during a non-sexual massage because the gentle therapeutic touch can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, leading to a partial or full erection.

Don’t be embarrassed; it’s happened before, and an experienced therapist will ignore it.

I’m Conscious About My Body

Massage therapists are like doctors in seeing bodies of all shapes and sizes. We can all feel self-conscious at times but don’t let that get in the way of a good massage! If you’re really worried, by all means, ask the therapist to avoid the area. You might find that you get so relaxed during your massage that you stop caring…

You could also choose a clothed massage like Shiatsu or Thai.


Can I Ask for a Female or Male Massage Therapist?

You can. Some people have reasons for preferring a therapist of the opposite (or the same gender), and we promise not to judge you. Though, there’s nothing to worry about in having a massage with a male or female therapist. Men – if you worry about some unintended erections, see above. Women – there’s really no need to feel intimidated by a male massage therapist. You might even enjoy it!

If you’re concerned, you can always ask to meet your therapist before the session.

Should I Tip?

There are no hard and fast rules unless you’re in a hotel or spa. In a hotel, you’re expected to tip 15-20% if you’ve enjoyed your massage. Most holistic therapy and massage centers would encourage a tip for a great treatment. Some people don’t think it’s appropriate to tip in a medical clinic, but it’s up to you. You can always ask if therapists accept tips when you book.

Still have questions you’re too shy to ask your massage therapist? Feel free to call us, and our licensed massage therapists are always ready to help.

Ready for a massage session? Call us or book online now.

Brilliant Massage & Skin

Burlington, Vermont